Comments on: Fitting-in vs Being Authentic (part 3)

By: Coming OUT – It’s Not Just for Gays : JobLife Architect

Coming OUT – It’s Not Just for Gays : JobLife Architect — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 07:16:24 +0000

[...] unites and elevates everyone? The more I write about this topic the more emboldened I become. In part 3 of “Fitting-in” I made an argument that I’m feeling more each day…I have to be completely myself if I [...]

By: Mark Levy

Mark Levy — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 19:07:42 +0000

Thanks for the kind words and recommendation that I turn the focus-changer questions from “Accidental Genius” into a laminated card.

You know, Jeanne, I never thought about that. Probably because I have never used such a card. But others might.

I’ve got to stop thinking everyone is like me.
.-= Mark Levy´s last blog ..Do You Take the Credit You Deserve? =-.

By: Jeanne Male

Jeanne Male — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 13:58:33 +0000

Mark, thanks for taking the time to stop by and comment. As you know, I’m a fan of your book, “Accidental Genius”. The Focus-changer questions are powerful – I think they would make for a great ‘job aid’ or laminated hard card. Your book was initially recommended to me by a friend and I have been recommending to others. Thanks for the inspiration, Mark!

By: Mark Levy

Mark Levy — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 12:25:24 +0000

Great post, Jeanne.

For me, committing to authenticity isn’t a one-time thing. I commit to it. I act that way. I fall back. I recommit. It’s a continuous loop.

As you know, I wrote a book on freewriting and use that technique often. One of the ways I use it, then, is as a reminder to myself of what my authentic self looks like.

I’ll be writing about some problem I’m facing, and I’ll ask myself, “How would the real me handle this? The me a my best?” By actively thinking that way, by viewing the situation through that lens, I’m more likely to act that way.
.-= Mark Levy´s last blog ..Do You Take the Credit You Deserve? =-.

By: Jeanne Male

Jeanne Male — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 22:13:22 +0000

Joanna,
As I read your comments, I could feel the depth and strength of your commitment to being audaciously authentic. It’s one thing to think or believe that audacious authenticity is important and another to consistently live it. Your words have helped to shore-up my resolve – and I thank you for your inspiration!

By: joannna devrais

joannna devrais — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:31:36 +0000

Jeanne,
Yes, yes the courage to be ourselves! Coming out of hiding for me means expressing who I am without limiting the full expression. The daring to be fully engaged in life without guilt can be a major aspect for women–what we should be doing, how we should do it, what we should look like and sound like. The truth of authentic self expression has been a life lived with more ease and joy. Thanks for referring me to this blog,mirrors are gifts! Joanna

By: Kathleen Casey

Kathleen Casey — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:02:29 +0000

I’ve just been reading comments from all three parts, Jeanne, you have stimulated just great discussions! This time I focused on your comment: “Audacious authenticity isn’t reserved for those with the power to revolutionize the planet – it can revolutionize each of us.”
My belief is that each person courageously moving beyond his or her socialized restrictions into authentic self-expression, is a true revolutionary. We humans (as per Course in Miracles-”There is only One Mind”) are in the process of creating healthier, more intimate and loving relationships with the Earth and with each other. We have different gifts and different roles; no one person is more important than another.
Early on in my development in the healing/transformational field, I read this admonition by Brugh Joy, “Make no comparisons.” So challenging for all of us in different times and situations, and so necessary if we are to really fulfill our soul’s purpose.
Lately I notice that I am even more grateful for kindness, especially from people who serve the public all day. A cashier or salesperson who smiles and has true positive intent has often made a lasting impression on me as I was filled with gratitude.
I hope you write part four-this is great!
.-= Kathleen Casey´s last blog ..Create From a Clean Heart =-.

By: Jeanne Male

Jeanne Male — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 02:24:30 +0000

Lydia, isn’t it amazing how as young parents we think that we exist to teach our children only to learn how very much our children teach us. Beautiful – thanks for sharing your experience.

Karen, your shoe analogy is excellent. So many people are walking around in somebody else’s shoes and smiling through the pain.

By: Karen Swim

Karen Swim — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 01:56:39 +0000

Jeanne, I agree with Lydia. This post is filled with powerful insight and stands as a testament to the obvious self-awareness and acceptance you possess. Fitting in for me is like wearing an ill fitting pair of shoes. You can walk in them, and from the outside you may even look good in them but there is a tremendous amount of pain in what should be natural and easy (walking, standing). .-= Karen Swim´s last blog ..Adrenalin, Pie and the Holiday Season =-.

By: Being authentic | Indivisibly One

Being authentic | Indivisibly One — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 05:06:44 +0000

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